I’ve been seeing a meme pop up in my social media feeds recently about Eeyore and his friends; he’s so miserable, sad and melancholy, and how loved he is by his friends.
I’ve noticed people making comments about how they wished they had a friend like Pooh, kind and loving, understanding, despite the misery.
My perspective on this is Eeyore’s friends stick by him because, no matter how bad a day he is having he never, ever takes it out on his friends.
Eeyore, even on his worst day, when he is really struggling, doing it really tough, is not mean or angry and hurtful in his sadness.
He understands enough about himself and his illness, and knows that hurting those who love him best won’t help.
There is a difference between sad and depressive and mean.
Eeyore doesn’t abuse Pooh, he doesn’t lash out at Kanga, he doesn’t slam doors or swear at Tigger. He doesn’t kick Rabbit. His day really sucks, he is really doing it tough, but he won’t hurt his friends.
Love each other well. Even when we aren’t very lovable. No excuses. Friends and loved ones are there to help you, but please try and allow that to happen. Illness is not an excuse for abuse.
If you are a loved one, please don’t enable. Please draw clear boundaries about love and respect.
Reach out to one another. Support and love, but don’t make excuses for abuse.
@kmhunt2014 on Twitter and Instagram