Is it really worth it?

Sometimes I wonder if it is all a bit much. Just for a fleeting moment. Like at 7am when I am running out the door, in the freezing cold to three soccer matches, with a pile of books, a laptop and the knowledge that the cleaning, cooking and washing will be waiting for me when I get home. The emails will still need answering and that essay will still need writing.

I juggle. A lot.

I try and give my time to my kids, to my study, to keep a clean home, to work, to be a good family member, to volunteer for the community, to attend school events, to garden, walk my dogs and give time to my friends.

Sometimes it is all too much. And I say no an draw boundaries.

And, it probably upsets some people.

I’ve said before, I’m not very good at drawing boundaries. At taking care of me and my priorities; but I am working on it.

And I’m improving.

I don’t always answer phone calls, emails and texts.

I don’t communicate with people who waste my time.

I try and utilise travel time. I also study or read at every chance I get. And yes, this is probably frowned upon too.

But, I need to do this. I want to study and learn. I need to work.

I need to be with my kids. I want to travel and I live my life in a way that is making me happy!

Yes, I am very busy. Yes, I do say no. Yes, I do ignore time wasters. Yes, I do juggle.

But, 99.9% of the time I am sure this is right. This is what makes me happy. This is what I want. I am crazy passionate about this.

And sometimes I think it’s crazy!

Resilience

I’m considering today what makes some people so optimistic and resilient despite the most difficult circumstances.

In my life I have had the pleasure of the company of a few very good folks, who despite physical, financial and emotional pain and difficulties remain the most happy, upbeat and positive people.

In the face of adversity some people have the courage to not only keep going but to laugh, make jokes, encourage others with a smile.

These folks inspire me.

It is these people I aspire to be more like.

This resilience, this determination, strength and optimism I admire.

This courage.

This belief.

And I am so grateful for having these people in my life.

Truths

Your children didn’t ask to be born into this.

Your children did not ask for you to fight to keep them so you don’t lose your only source of income and home.

Your children did not ask to be kept away from their family.

Your children did not ask to be raised in filth and put at risk.

You know all the right words to say. The right language. The recovery talk. Getting clean. Staying clean, rehab, recovery.

Because you have said it all so many times before.

These children did not ask to have to find themselves a snack because you can’t do it.

Drugs have been your crutch, your mistress and you don’t ever want to be without her.

Your family did not want to be forced to intervene. They did not ask to have their hearts broken again and again as this process repeats.

And even though you know the truth, you refuse to accept. You deny you are an addict.

You deserve so much better. This family and these kids need so much more.

The anger and hurt bubbles beneath the surface as we try and love you all.

Mind your mind

“Mind is everything; we become what we think.” ~ Buddha.

Our thoughts are more powerful than we recognise.

Our thoughts determine the way we feel, think, act and the outcomes we achieve each day.

Thoughts influence our emotional state, our confidence level and success rates.

Thoughts can be difficult to control. And at times, they control us.

Learning strategies to monitor our thinking can help.

Remember, we become what we think.

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Who do you want to be?

“At any moment I could start being more of the person I dream to be – but which moment should I choose?” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant

What is it you would like to be?

Who is it you want to be?

What dreams do you hold?

Do you want to travel?

Change jobs?

Study?

Be more active?

Get organised?

Eat well?

Who is it you want to be?

What moment will you choose?

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Mountain Climbing

“It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.” ~ Sir Edmund Hillary.

Learning about ourselves, understand ourselves is often far more difficult that climbing the mountain.

Knowing who you are, what you need and how you operate can be really challenging.

Once we understand how and why we do things the way we do, we can be more effective in our lives.

If we set ourselves up in ways that meet our needs, support our requirements we are more efficient.

Knowing what works for you and what doesn’t is vital.

Knowing your weaknesses as well as your strengths is essential.

Where do you do your best work?

At what time of day?

What are your strengths?

What are your weaknesses?

What would you most like to improve?

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Perfection

There is no perfect time.

There is no perfect place.

There is no perfect partner.

There is no perfect job.

Nothing is 100% perfect 100% of the time.

It just doesn’t work that way.

It’s all up to you. Make the most of things.

Accept people have faults and love them despite those faults.

Love them because of those faults.

Look for the wonder. The good.

Don’t wait.

Live it big.

Families

We have used some time off recently to set some goals for our family.

We have made some decisions, not all of them easy, about what would make us happy, what is realistic and now, the next few months will see us working toward those.

It’s motivating an exciting to have something to work towards.

It gives us a reason to get up each day.

It helps the budgeting.

Do you set goals for your family unit?

What gets you excited?

What would you love to do with your family?

How much risk are you prepared to take?

What goals would you like to set?

Mum Guilt

Why are mums so awful at taking care of themselves?

Some of us are getting better at it, but often we put ourselves right at the bottom of the to do list.

We feel guilty taking time off.

We convince ourselves we need everything to be perfect.

We refuse to rest.

All people need rest. All people need time to themselves. Even mums.

Listen to your body.

Do what is right for you. Nap. Go for a walk. Drink water. Have a wine. Meet up with a friend. Read a book.

Laugh. Go out for coffee. Take the kids to the park. Have a bath.

Do whatever it is that you need to do for you.

This week I have taken some time out.

A trip away with people I love, reading, writing and working. I will nap. I will swim and walk. I will take photographs and I will rest.

This is what I need. For me.

What do you need?

 

 

Difficult things

“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.” ~ Seneca.

We get blocked up thinking about how hard something is going to be before we start.

Sometimes we even stop ourselves from starting.

We imagine things are going to be far too difficult, and we doubt our own ability.

Oftern, once we commit, take action and make a start, we find things are not as impossible as they seemed.

Do you doubt your ability?

Would you like to try?

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